To compliment or not to compliment... that is the question. Women tell us they want us to compliment them. Your mom told you to be nice to girls, right? And we guys like to really "turn up" the compliments when we LIKE a woman... But here's the question: Do compliments create ATTRACTION when you first meet a woman?
Most of the time the answer is NO. I have a word for guys who like to give women lots of compliments when they first meet her. That word is WUSSY. Do women love to be complimented? I think so. In fact, I think that many really ATTRACTIVE women FEED off of attention and compliments. The more attention and compliments they get, the better and more powerful they feel. It's an ego boost.
BUT... and it's a BUTTTTT bigger than J-Lo's, this doesn't mean that a woman will feel ATTRACTED to you if you give her compliments. Attractive women get compliments in various forms all the time. In fact, they're so used to getting compliments, that's what they EXPECT. As a matter of fact, if you start talking to an attractive woman and say, "Wow, you're really beautiful. I mean, you're like a goddess... are you a model or an actress?" etc., the most LIKELY response you're going to get is her giving you the cold shoulder. Why? Because SHE GOT WHAT SHE NEEDED FROM YOU and you showed her that you're JUST LIKE EVERY OTHER guy out there that will worship her for her physical beauty.
As a general rule, you ALWAYS want to avoid being mentally slotted into the "average" and "like all the other guys" category at ALL COST. I have started conversations by giving a woman a compliment, but I NEVER let it become part of the actual conversation. If anything, I begin teasing and making fun of her looks as soon as possible, if she's REALLY hot-looking. And I never give the compliment in a way that says, "I'm intimidated because you're obviously very powerful and desirable."
Thanks for today.
Most of the time the answer is NO. I have a word for guys who like to give women lots of compliments when they first meet her. That word is WUSSY. Do women love to be complimented? I think so. In fact, I think that many really ATTRACTIVE women FEED off of attention and compliments. The more attention and compliments they get, the better and more powerful they feel. It's an ego boost.
BUT... and it's a BUTTTTT bigger than J-Lo's, this doesn't mean that a woman will feel ATTRACTED to you if you give her compliments. Attractive women get compliments in various forms all the time. In fact, they're so used to getting compliments, that's what they EXPECT. As a matter of fact, if you start talking to an attractive woman and say, "Wow, you're really beautiful. I mean, you're like a goddess... are you a model or an actress?" etc., the most LIKELY response you're going to get is her giving you the cold shoulder. Why? Because SHE GOT WHAT SHE NEEDED FROM YOU and you showed her that you're JUST LIKE EVERY OTHER guy out there that will worship her for her physical beauty.
As a general rule, you ALWAYS want to avoid being mentally slotted into the "average" and "like all the other guys" category at ALL COST. I have started conversations by giving a woman a compliment, but I NEVER let it become part of the actual conversation. If anything, I begin teasing and making fun of her looks as soon as possible, if she's REALLY hot-looking. And I never give the compliment in a way that says, "I'm intimidated because you're obviously very powerful and desirable."
Thanks for today.
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